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What would I say to my 20-year-old self?

Updated: Jan 12, 2021

30 years later, what would I say to my 20-year-old self?

Hi beautiful girl. Enjoy life. You are in college, the best time of your life. Just Enjoy It.

Love yourself. Love yourself because all you got is you. You and your soul. Stay centered.

If I only knew now, what I knew at your age...

What I know now is that life is a dance between the maximum uncertainty and desire.

What I know now is that we have a little mind that is constantly chattering and doubting and judging.

You are good enough. You are not too young. You are not too old. You are not too skinny, or too big, or too small.

You are enough! Tell yourself this every day.

What I know now is that you must trust your gut! Trust your heart. How do you know that is your heart speaking to you? When you feel the emotion coming up, like something touched your soul, literally, that is your heart speaking to you.

Like right now, as I am typing these words, my heart is speaking to me. I can feel it!

You are so beautiful. Young and powerful. Have fun. There is plenty of time to work and worry about things in life. Right now, just enjoy.

What would I say to my 20 years old self?

Read as much as you can. Guard your mind at all times. Don’t let anything or anyone make you doubt how beautiful and powerful you are.

Everything on the outside is a reflection of your inner world.

When you have peace and serenity inside, you breathe differently, your aura is different. You will attract all the good things as they come to you.

There is so much opportunity out there. There are so many people who want to help you. Don’t hesitate to ask. When you ask for help, you are giving people an opportunity to give.

Life is about receiving and giving. It is a beautiful flow. You are receiving one day and the next you will be giving.

Life is a journey. There is only the journey of experiencing. Savor every moment of it. Moments that might be painful could be your biggest and sweetest fruit.

No dream is too big!!

If you are only thinking about your own life, then life will serve you that much. If you are desiring to take care of others, then life will give you more.

What would I say to my 20 years old self?

That you are the creator of your life!!!! Yes, you are. The past does not equal the future.

Your biggest asset is you and your mind. Invest in your personal growth. Have a mindset that is serving you.

Life is like riding on a train. You have to make sure the train stays on track. There are people who come in and out of your life, like the passengers on and off the train. They might ride with you for a long period of time, or they might ride for a short distance. They might be passengers carrying some heavy baggage, some might be funny, some might be quiet. Some might leave a deep impression. Some you might not even remember that they were even on your train.

The most important thing is to stay on track. Know what you want. Know where this train is going. Know that it’s not about the destination, it is about the scene outside the window. It is about that journey that is your life.

What would I say to my 20 years old self?

Love, Experience, Share, Be Happy, Be Inspired, and Inspire Others.

Life is going to knock you down many, many times. Get up and just remember there is no such thing as smooth sailing. Change is inevitable. Nothing lasts forever.

What makes you keep getting up and keep going is the inner knowing: there is a meaning to your life. Yes, you are born on Earth, and having this human experience means something. All of us are meant to find our gift (what we are here to bring to the world) and then give it away. We all carry a unique gift that only we possess.

What would I say to my 20 years old self?

Have a peer group that will love you, support you, challenge you, and help you expand. Life is about expansion. We are here to expand and evolve by learning life lessons. This peer group is going to remind you of just that.

Proximity is power. You will become who you spend time with. Find your peer group.

They don’t have to be the same age group or the same gender. But they are people who have the same values. They want the same thing out of life.

When you are the smartest person in the room, you might need to find another peer group that can stretch you.

Wow, as I am talking to you, my 20-year-old self, I realize how much I have learned in the last 30 years. I have lived a very colorful life, just like the dawn light is rising outside my window. Bringing orange glow and grey shadows.

Be brave, be courageous. Life will always change, just like the shape of the clouds. Because that is what they are supposed to do. The sky is limitless. Just like your life ahead of you. There are infinite possibilities.

What would I say to my 20 years old self?

My beautiful 20-year-old self, just remember that there are always going to be people who want to help you if you keep your heart pure and centered.

There is infinite possibility in this journey called life.

Don’t try to figure it out. I am going to be 50 in a few months, and I haven’t figured out, but I learned one thing, the most important thing. And that is to surrender. It is the hardest lesson you will learn. But I know it is the only thing that we can count on. Life is a gift. You are a gift. Surrender to it.

And when you feel tired and beaten, go to nature, step on the grass with your bare feet. Feel your feet touching the ground. Let mother nature center you and nurture you. She’s got you, my beautiful 20-year-old self. Just close your eyes, take a deep breath, and breathe.

When everything else fails, just breathe. Breathe into your heart. Deeply, connect with that life force that was given to you since you came out of your mother’s womb. Just breathe.

And enjoy the adventure.




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